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April J
My daughter has a problem with athority and following directions. I have been making her write sentances for the infractions when she gets in trouble, as well as taking away extracuricular activities like TV, computer, telephone, and going outside.
Her teacher has moved her to a seperate seat in the classroom (this is the 3rd year of this) and is now making her punishments in the classroom more severe. She's in 2nd grade.
Both her teacher and I are at our wits end, we don't know how to make this any worse.
FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO WILL ANSWER ABOUT POSSITIVE REINFORCEMENT: I already do this. Telling her she's done good and I'm proud of her makes her eyes light up, but the first time something is said about how she needs to get something done (pick up her backpack, hang up her jacket etc.) she pitches a fit and exclames how she "can't do anything" !?!
Daily reinforcement doesn't work, because after she gets what she wants she acts up 10x worse the next day.
Weekly reinforcement doesn't work because she cannot go an entire week without an infraction.
I have considered that she is looking for attention because of a younger sibling, but they both get the same amount of attention. I've treid not to dump the whole "yuo're older" thing on her, but it is a fact and usually when it comes up it's like "You're older and know better, he looks up to you, you need to set a better example". It's the only real reponsibility she has concerning her brother (4). Some kids her age are more like built-in babysitters.
I don't see where she has it so bad.
HELP PLEASE!
I have a paddle, It's mostly as a deterant, but when used, not hard.
I'll just say this: Dad's not much help.
Answer
Where's her Dad? Perhaps he needs to step up and be a disciplinarian. Sometimes children take their father's more seriously. Is she getting adequate one on one time with you or are you a busy working mother who is exhausted and cranky at the end of the day? Don't take offense, just curious. I saw on a Nanny 911 show a while back that the kids were acting up when the Mom was doing stuff for herself but not spending enough one on one time focused on them. Maybe you could plan a Mommy and Daughter day where you take her out to lunch and you go to the beach and just hang out or something. Also make sure that she has plenty of quality time with her Dad too. Little girls really need that. Studies show that girls who don't have fathers, or a stable father figure, actively involved in their lives become more rebellious and promiscuous in their early teens. Sounds like she's angry about something and is lashing out by being difficult. What would she be angry about? Does she do well in school? Can she read well? What is her diet like? Does she get plenty of fish and vegetables? Is she getting adequate sleep at night? Is she watching more than an hour of TV a day? Is she on the computer too much?? Does she have friends? There are a number of areas that you have to examine to determine what's causing the problem.
Best wishes.
Where's her Dad? Perhaps he needs to step up and be a disciplinarian. Sometimes children take their father's more seriously. Is she getting adequate one on one time with you or are you a busy working mother who is exhausted and cranky at the end of the day? Don't take offense, just curious. I saw on a Nanny 911 show a while back that the kids were acting up when the Mom was doing stuff for herself but not spending enough one on one time focused on them. Maybe you could plan a Mommy and Daughter day where you take her out to lunch and you go to the beach and just hang out or something. Also make sure that she has plenty of quality time with her Dad too. Little girls really need that. Studies show that girls who don't have fathers, or a stable father figure, actively involved in their lives become more rebellious and promiscuous in their early teens. Sounds like she's angry about something and is lashing out by being difficult. What would she be angry about? Does she do well in school? Can she read well? What is her diet like? Does she get plenty of fish and vegetables? Is she getting adequate sleep at night? Is she watching more than an hour of TV a day? Is she on the computer too much?? Does she have friends? There are a number of areas that you have to examine to determine what's causing the problem.
Best wishes.
How can I work my biceps and forearms without dumbbells/weights?
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You can use anything that weighs anything...a vacuum cleaner...kids (my father was a boxer and used my brothers, my sister and I to do shoulder lateral raises...good fun quality time with kids)...backpacks full of books...bags full of dirt...You have to use some weight (even your own body weight...install a pull up bar in a door frame).
Also work out your whole body. Lift a table if you have to.
You can use anything that weighs anything...a vacuum cleaner...kids (my father was a boxer and used my brothers, my sister and I to do shoulder lateral raises...good fun quality time with kids)...backpacks full of books...bags full of dirt...You have to use some weight (even your own body weight...install a pull up bar in a door frame).
Also work out your whole body. Lift a table if you have to.
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