3 kids one room help plz?

lovestinck

i have a 2 bed room home with 3 kids 1 of my own and 2 belong to my sister who was having some problems so i told her i would take her children til she was well anyway they r all girls ages 11,9,and 5 the bed room they must share is only a 8' x 10' room and i have no idea how to make this work plz help of anyone has one ideas thank u

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Bunk beds work great! you could get them with a twin on top and full on the bottom, two of the girls could share the full bed. You can buy the bed frame used to save money. Maximize storage space by using the top of a dresser/chest to hold their TV instead of a tv stand (if they have one in thier room), place plastic bins or shelves in the bottom of thier closet, add hooks to the back of the bedroom door to hold backpacks/coats and get some under the bed storage bins. Hope this helps. :)

My 5 year old daughter's talking marriage inappropriate?

Mom101Ma

I have a 5 year old daughter who will be six in May who attends Kindergarten and she is very friendly and loves to talk. She is very smart and is very friendly and she acts and talks as if she is already 7 or 8 years old. Generally, her behaviors report from the school has been green but with 1 yellow, on occasion would get 2 yellows a week, which results in my husband and I reprimanding her and discussing what happened and why a yellow was received. She received an orange twice since she has been in school but never a red. Of course the punishment for orange more severe with taking her TV time away, taking a toy away and only allowing her to draw or look at her books. The rest of the time she is to think about what she did that day that caused her to get a orange and how should could avoid that in the future.

Sometimes when she gets out of line, we put her in a timeout and also done some spankings after fair amount of warnings, however, about a month and a half ago, I received a call from the Vice Principal about her behavior and she needed to see me right away. So I left my job early and met with the Vice Principal who also brought in the Guidance Counselor and the teacher. It was 3 of them against. I was called in because my daughter was disrespecting the teacher and yelling at the cafeteria lady. I listened to what they had to say and recognized that there was some talk back and disrespectful going on at home as well and we address them each time but after this incident, we made a change.

After that meeting, I decided that we should also incorporate a behavior chart (something visible instead of just warnings) to mark her good days and bad days. When she is really good we give her a BLUE star, good days, GREEN star, Not so good YELLOW start and bad days a RED star.

When she is good the whole week, she gets a gold star on top of that, earning her a Dollar to collect so that she may pick out something at the dollar store. But, if she also gets all GREENs from her school's behavior chart, that earns her another point for Dollar store earning her $2.00 for that week. However, if she has a Yellow at school, there is NO way she can get a BLUE star at home. The highest she can get is a GREEN at home that day even if she is really good. This has worked very well for us and I was very proud of her. She had come home with 5 greens the last 3 weeks with no Yellows!

However today, I received a phone call from the Vice Principal again, indicating that Maya was misbehaving on the bus. The Vice Principal said that Maya was not sitting in her seat which is a safety issue, then she was punching and pulling not keeping her hands to her self and she was having in appropriate conversation on the bus. Well the instant the VP indicated punching, I jumped all over that asking "what did you say?? Punching? That is something that I cannot believe as that is one thing that I know my daughter will not do" Then the VP immediately indicated "Oh no, I didn't say that, I said pushing and pulling. Well, not pushing more like pulling and not keeping her hands to herself" Then that story changed to "She was touching someone else's back pack" I was very angry each time the story changed, furious in fact. So then, I asked the VP what exactly was the "in-appropriate" talk my daughter having. Apparently, my daughter was making comments that she was going to marry this boy that was sitting across from her. I understand the safety issue on the bus and the fact that she was standing is an issue, but saying "I'm going to marry you" something to be considered "in appropriate?" She is 5 and of course I am not going send her off to be married at 5, but can't they say to her "you are too young to be getting married" and be done with it? Does that constitute an add on to the inappropriate behavior?

To be honest, meeting I with them a month and a half ago had me of course concerned about my daughter's behavior and felt that I needed to do something, and I recognized that needed to be addressed, but I also felt that it was 3 of them against me. Not sure why all 3 of them had to be there for the meeting.

My daughter is no saint, I get it but she is also not monster. I feel that at times, we are very hard on her in terms of discipline but child can't make comment like child? Saying things like "I'm going to marry you" is that so bad?

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Wow. All this boils down to is that a 5-year-old girl says she's going to marry a boy on the bus? This is a problem?

This is 5 years old. Do YOU remember talking about marrying boys at 5 years old? I do. Little girls are encouraged to "play house" and "take care of baby," etc. It's all about "being married."

You simply tell this VP that he needs a refresher on his child development courses, and he should call you when there's a real problem. And touching another kid's backpack and not wanting to sit in her seat on the bus (she's 5 YEARS OLD!!!!!) is NOT a real problem.

Good lord, this kind of stuff drives me nuts...sigh...you have my sympathy -- for the school crap. And my congratulations for having a healthy, spunky, 5-year-old girl.

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