Anony
My 4 year old has been going to the same daycare for 2 years now. Every morning he has some major issues with separation anxiety. I see other kids get dropped off and they dont have issues. I honestly dont think there is anything bad going on at the daycare. So I came up with an idea to print out a picture of me and his step dad and have him carry it with to school. He asked if he could carry it around in his backpack. He loved the idea so I said ok to the backpack. Well apparently since I started doing this 3 days ago he wears the backpack all day while hes at school. I didnt really think this was a problem. Even the teachers say its fine and its not causing a problem and its really helped with the separation anxiety. He walks right in now with no problem. This is my problem. His step dad has a real problem and says that he is going to cause problems by carrying the backpack. That he will basically be picked on for being different and that it will look like hes getting special treatment. Like I said before I asked the teacher and she said it was a great idea. So should I take the backpack away even though its made such a huge difference for him?
Answer
I think taking the backpack away will be damaging. I can certainly understand step-dad's concern (most dads worry over things like this), but I agree that 4 yo kids don't pick on each other over this. So, why not switch the picture from the back-pack to his pocket? Or affix it a belt clip he can wear every day? Then whose to even know (or notice)? If step-dad has issues with even that, then pull rank and stand your ground.
As for the anxiety, does he share time between you guys and his biological dad? Often, common sep anxiety lingers a bit longer in such cases. It's not a big deal, especially if you find a solution like you have.
And know that though you don't see anxiety over the drop-off doesn't mean any given child doesn't go home and explode the day's stress onto their parents in the safety of the home. Trust me!
I think taking the backpack away will be damaging. I can certainly understand step-dad's concern (most dads worry over things like this), but I agree that 4 yo kids don't pick on each other over this. So, why not switch the picture from the back-pack to his pocket? Or affix it a belt clip he can wear every day? Then whose to even know (or notice)? If step-dad has issues with even that, then pull rank and stand your ground.
As for the anxiety, does he share time between you guys and his biological dad? Often, common sep anxiety lingers a bit longer in such cases. It's not a big deal, especially if you find a solution like you have.
And know that though you don't see anxiety over the drop-off doesn't mean any given child doesn't go home and explode the day's stress onto their parents in the safety of the home. Trust me!
Kids backpacks?
Gretchen M
So my niece and nephew got these http://image.orientaltrading.com/otcimg/14_261.jpg?resize(350x350) and they want to decorate them before they go to disneyland, they're using them to carry suveniers in. Any ideas how they could decorate them? I'm taking them to the store tomorrow to get supplies.
Answer
What u can do 4 a girl u can add sequins , ribbons , and some cute fur . for a boy u can add dinusaurs u can also get some letters and put his or her name on it and much more. Hope this Helps !
What u can do 4 a girl u can add sequins , ribbons , and some cute fur . for a boy u can add dinusaurs u can also get some letters and put his or her name on it and much more. Hope this Helps !
Powered by Yahoo! Answers
Tidak ada komentar:
Posting Komentar